There is a word I rarely hear used, ever, and that word is Praxis. Praxis is the integration of belief with behavior. I use this word often when working with clients as it is the key component in order to change your behaviors to achieve the goal you have put in place. Believing in yourself is the single most important thing you can do. Why? Because there are going to be days or times where nobody is going to believe in you. They might support you and tell you, it’s going to be alright, but they don’t believe in you. They don’t think you are going to be able to do it because they’ve never believed in themselves.

In order to change your behaviors, you are going to have to believe in what it is you are going after. Whether it’s shedding unwanted pounds, getting promoted at work or becoming the best player on your team, without the belief you can actually do it, you will not move in the direction to achieve your goal.

Now let’s talk about beliefs. To put it simply, a belief is a thought you continue to think about yourself. If you wake up every morning, look in the mirror and think you’re fat, that is the belief you are going to have about yourself and it will continue throughout your day. After your shower you put on your jeans and realize how tight they are and think you’re fat. This continues throughout your day and your beliefs are the thoughts you continue to think.

Once a person starts to understand this, they ask how to change their thoughts. This is such a simple step most people overthink it. Because once you know what you don’t want, you know what you do want, and you need to start replacing that negative thought each time. Affirmations are a great way to do this and something I work with every client on as a step in the goals setting process.

More thoughts on what you do want and less on what you don’t want.